“Why do people quit their MLM Network Marketing businesses ?” was the question I asked yesterday and I described my own example of quitting a business in order to save something more valuable – my dream, my purpose, my WHY.
For my first post on this series, I was selected as “Weekly Featured Tribe Member” in Jordan Schultz’s MLM Global Mastermind Tribe on Facebook. You may want to watch my “Thank you”-video below.
The ability to take a decision – especially a critical one – requires orientation: Where am I today and where do I want to go – and very important: how ?
With “how ?” I don’t mean that you need very detailed plans from the very beginning, but you need to take a decision which price you want to pay.
And then pay it.
If you don’t take a conscious decision about the price you want to pay, chances are you need to pay a higher price or a price you never would pay voluntarily.
That doesn’t mean that you need to pay with love, health, relationships or blood, sweat and tears in exchange with the realization of your dreams.
I’m pretty sure that your dreams include love and health and wealth and harmony and piece of mind and freedom and their materialization, am I right ?
The price to pay is comittment to your true Self, to your purpose, to your dreams and to your WHY.
The price to pay is the promise to yourself to never quit your dreams, your why, your purpose, no matter what. Napoleon Hill calls that “definiteness of purpose” in his famous book “Think and Grow Rich”.
That commitment will give you orientation. It will give you strength of character when you need it badly.
It will give you the security that you don’t quit your ideal lifestyle if you change a vehicle. If the horse is dead, it is dead. Period.
How many of us are riding a dead horse with the hope to reach their destination ? I’m sure we all do that from time to time, myself included.
There’s nothing wrong with your hope, but look at your horse if it as able to carry you where you want to go. If not, make a change. If in doubt, ask a vet.
I’m trying to explain the anatomy of quitting and failing to myself in order to learn how to detect behavioural patterns in myself and others more easily that lead either to quitting
or to moving on.
If you sponsor a person in your business, you already know that this person will face situations of challenge, obstacles and feelings of wanting to quit.
So knowing how this person might behave in such situations, would certainly be an asset, wouldn’t it ?
Let me give you an example.
I recently read an email from a person whom I appreciate very much as a person and as a friend.
He wrote:”I’m chasing THIS dream…” and he may quit his business or not.
I cringed when reading that.
If this guy quits his business, he also quits (T)HIS dream, doesn’t he ?
He feels like chasing something he can’t relate to because he failed at figuring out his purpose, his WHY, HIS dream.
In this case, quitting is failing.
He might join another business, but if he doesn’t do his homework, odds are that he won’t do better at the new business.
If he does his homework, he will eventually succeed.
As he needs to do his homework anyway, why not doing it right now and sticking to the business he’s already building today ? If the business is healthy and not a dead horse, that provided. In this case, it’s a very good business.
Figuring out your WHY is simple because it’s already in you, it’s already there, like a rough diamond.
But you might find it not easy to find it, to figure it out, to write it down.
Chances are you need help with that. That’s OK to need help. It’s not OK needing help and not to ask for it or even refuse it.
So if you really need and want help, ask me. I can help with you that.
Being able to ask for help and to accept it gratefully is also part of personal development and emotional intelligence.
What is your opinion ?
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Please go ahead to read part 3 called “Anatomy Of Quitting – Have You Tried Everything ?”.
To a prosperous life,
Oliver Tausend
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Twitter: marcus_baker
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Hi Oliver,
Great topic. I posted this quote on Facebook this morning and I think it says alot about the subject.
“You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.” Mary Pickford
~Marcus
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Oliver Reply:
July 21st, 2010 at 00:04
Hi Marcus,
thanks for your comment and sharing this amazing quote. I retweeted it on Facebook. It hits the nail on its head.
Take care
Oliver
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Hi, Oliver. This is a great post! I really like the idea of distinguishing between the business and the dream. Sometimes businesses don’t work, and it’s not necessarily anyone’s fault. The trick is to be honest enough with one’s self to realize that is the case.
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Oliver Reply:
July 21st, 2010 at 00:02
Hi Steve,
thanks for your comment. Absolutely, honesty with ourselves is crucial. We can lie to everybody else, but not to ourselves.
Take care
Oliver
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I have a problem quitting. I usually just keep going just to make sure I don’t fail. However, I had to learn that sometimes you really should quit. Not everything makes sense to keep going at it if it really doesn’t work.
Thanks for the reminder.
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Oliver Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 23:57
Hi Emily,
I can feel with you because I also hate quitting even if I know it better. Post nr. 1 of this series might be helpful: Anatomy Of Quitting – Oliver Tausend’s Example | Oliver Tausend’s Blog http://www.askolivertausend.com/2010/07/anatomy-quitting-oliver-tausend-example/ – Sometimes quitting is the best decision.
Thanks for your comment and take care
Oliver
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Twitter: TristramLodge
says:
Hi Oliver,
You have made a great post which focuses on the WHY people quit and give up on their dream. Quit for a business reason and only a business reason as you say with the horse. Thanks for sharing.
Have a great day.
Tristram Lodge
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Oliver Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 23:50
Hi Tristram,
thanks for your comment. If I quit for the wrong reason and lie to myself, it will turn out at the next opportunity – I can’t run away.
Take care
Oliver
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Twitter: prfuller
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Fantastic read Oliver!
Someone cannot fail until they give up on their dream. Quitting one opportunity to join another is just a means to obtain that dream, so quitting something is not failure.
And that is why it is so important to determine your “Why” before embarking on this journey.
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Oliver Reply:
July 20th, 2010 at 23:48
Hi Peter,
that’s true. Yet I agree with Steve and his comment on yesterday’s post that we shouldn’t quit a business at the first signs of resistance.
Thanks for your comment and take care
Oliver
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Great insights Oliver. It is sad how some people will not ask for help even when they are struggling. Or worse as you say, they refuse it. Pride, arrogance, fear of seeming like they don’t have all the answers? A mix of things I guess.
Keep them coming, my friend.
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Oliver Reply:
July 21st, 2010 at 00:00
Hi Charlie,
it’s also the well-known self-employment mindset: I’m Superman – I need to make it alone !
Thanks for your comment.
Take care
Oliver
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Hi Oliver, You have touched on a great subject. I admire your commitment to your WHY and to your Dream. I fell off a great horse and I have yet to get back on it. I just read this amazing quote posted by one of your readers (Marcus Baker) “You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing that we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.” Mary Pickford
I realize now more than ever that I do not have a compelling WHY, if at all.
I wish I was more like you Oliver and maybe, I should spend more quality time in you presence. Thank you for the insight.
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Oliver Reply:
July 21st, 2010 at 09:09
Hi Stephane,
thanks for your comment, my friend. I can’t tell you how grateful I am that you came across this post. And I am grateful how everything falls into place, that Marcus posted this quote and you read it on my blog. That’s cool. Universe looks kindly upon you, Stephane.
It’s great that you want to get back on your racing horse again – but you don’t need to do it alone, please, please don’t think that you need to do it alone. We’re there to help you with that, if necessary over and over again.
But you need to get started with your WHY, and you don’t need to do it alone either. Start with page 22 in the “Success in 10 steps” ebook, and then let’s talk.
Love me or hate me for that, but wishing you were more like me – simply be careful with that. It’s OK to admire certain qualities in someone else in order to learn for them, maybe 10 %, if ever. I do that, too.
Just remember Michael Dlouhy’s words:”You are perfect just who you are.” Perfect with all strenghts and weaknesses, failures, screw-ups and messes you may have created in your life.
Everything else plants the seed for the next struggle.
I appreciate that you would like to spend more quality time in my presence, OK, I could say, come to Germany
but you can spend quality time with me, through Social Media, my blog and our phone calls. It’s easy without buying a flight ticket.
Universe works always, if we’re thousand of miles away or not.
Simply don’t run away from your own Self.
And sooner or later, we will meet in person, and I’m already looking forward to that.
Take care
Oliver
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Hi Oliver! Wonderful post and cannot agree more! Your WHY is the base to your business.. to your success. My WHY has always been my two beautiful daughters! Before that I never even knew what life was really about….
Truly loved this and looking forward to more. Happy to have found you through The Unified Tribe!
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Oliver Reply:
July 21st, 2010 at 08:53
Hi Jennifer,
thanks for your comment. Yes, my WHY is also about my two daughters – I want to practise in my life that there are choices, options. At the moment, I’m creating them. I say it’s the best thing that can happen to a man – to have daughters
The Unified Tribe is really cool, I meet amazing people there, like you. People I haven’t come across through Facebook alone yet, for example.
Take care
Oliver
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Twitter: steveshoemaker
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Great post Oliver when we can really figure out our why we have to see it’s not tied up in a particular business. But it’s really the sum of our true desires and principles and your right if we can really hold on to that it can see us through tough times.
Steve Shoemaker
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Oliver Reply:
July 21st, 2010 at 08:48
Hi Steve,
thanks for your comment. I’m a friend of being all in, in my marriage, with my kids, with my Self and my dreams, strengths and weaknesses – and with my business. But it’s also a decision of personal system of value – at the end of the day, I value my WHY more than a particular business and then I need to take a decision.
Take care
Oliver
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Hi Oliver
A great post and a very strong important message. I think to tell ourselves we will not quit is very important.
Sue
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Oliver Reply:
July 22nd, 2010 at 00:05
Hi Sue,
thanks for your comment. The moment we refuse to quit our definite purpose is the moment when life starts to become easier.
Take care
Oliver
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yet another great post!
you virtually inspired me and released any kind of self doubt right now! the thing is that we have to pay the price when we seriously are amaing to accomplish our dreams and live a life of passion and prosperity!
deflections will come for sure so we should ask ourselves! is my goal strong enough to be untapped of deflections!? YES.
thanks for sharing this amazing content
looking forward reading your posts
gerald
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Oliver Reply:
July 22nd, 2010 at 16:57
Hi Gerald,
thanks for your appreciative comment. Comments like yours show me that I’m on track with my work. I’m glad I was able to contribute something valuable to your life.
Cheers
Oliver
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Oliver,
For me, quitting on our own dream is worse than not having it at the first place.. If we decide to quit, its taking us way back, not to where we started, but even behind that – into place of desperation and it brings out all negative things from our inner being. Its very hard, almost impossible to start all over, to create the dream again with the same passion and optimism.. We all know that jumping from one business to another is nothing else but not having our goal in the right place. So as you wrote, it is crucial to do our homework, create concrete goal and than work towards it.
You are doing a great job, keep it up!
Milena
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Oliver Reply:
July 25th, 2010 at 20:58
Hi Milena,
thanks for your appreciative comment. You are probably right: If we decide to quit our dream, it takes us back behind to our original starting point. That is very very sad.
Take care
Oliver
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Great Post Oliver, I see you have alot of valuable content here, so I’m going to spend alittle time here and check you out.
Keep rockin my friend
Eric
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Oliver Reply:
December 30th, 2010 at 22:08
Hi Eric,
thanks for stopping by, glad you like my blog.
Come back soon and take care
Oliver
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