Mind your own business ! Good advice from Robert Kiyosaki.
How does that fit to the requirement of giving ?
Giving without want because it comes from thinking of abundance rather than from lack thinking.
I fully subscribe to this attitude because it allows us to receive and feel ourselves worth of receiving.
On the other hand I want to challenge you today to mind your own business.
First of all, let’s define the word “business” – it isn’t about your business in a narrow sense of the word – it’s about your life, your why, your purpose in life, your contribution to the world, your world.
Sounds like a contradiction ?
I don’t think so because I think it’s the natural order of things. That doesn’t mean that we should be selfish on the other hand.
I would even say: If everybody minded their own business, everybody would be happy because everybody’s business would be minded…
I believe that a lot of disharmony in the world and in people’s lives is there due to minding other people’s businesses instead of minding their own businesses.
Minding your own business includes other people because you can’t live without relationships with others.
But minding other people’s businesses can exclude your own business because you sacrifice yourself, become tired and exhausted – and it can hurt the relationship with yourself.
While it would be theoratically possible to live without somebody else, you definitely cannot live without yourself.
So minding your own business includes minding the relationship with yourself.
It’s the most important relationship in your life.
Question: Who’s the most important person in your life ?
Your kids ? Your spouse ? You Mom ? Your Dad ? Who is it ?
All these persons are important but if not for you, your kids wouldn’t be on this planet, your spouse wouldn’t be your spouse and your Mom and Dad wouldn’t be your parents – so they define their role and importance through you.
The important thing here is to allow others also to be the most important persons in their lives. Selfishness starts when we allow ourselves to be the most important persons in our lives, but don’t allow the same to others.
Stay tuned for tomorrow’s post. I’m going to ask you:“Are you really minding your own business ?”
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You are right, Oliver. First things first. If you don’t lay the foundation by taking care of yourself first, you’ll never have a chance to help others effectively.
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 00:48
Hi Norbert,
thanks for your initial comment on my blog and thanks for your approving feedback. You’re summary hits the nail on its head.
Come back soon and take care
Oliver
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Hey Oliver,
Primarly we should take care of ourselves to strengthen our mindset and attitude to connect with other like minded people. Starting by ourselves is the essence of success.
Take care and have a good day my friend,
Gerald
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 00:47
Hi Gerald,
thanks for comment. I’m glad you were able to resonate with my post.
Take care
Oliver
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Twitter: stephensheather
says:
Oliver,
You’re so right. I love to hear oxygen mask rules when I fly somewhere. It’s a great reminder to take care of myself first.
Unfortunately as a mom, I often (usually) end up putting the needs of my kids and husband ahead of my own. Add into the mix building a home business and a challenge for setting boundaries around my business, and it’s not very often that I take time out for myself. I know there area lot of other work at home moms who struggle with this (probably dads too!). Thanks for reminding me to practice self care, give myself time to think, dream, breathe, and have fun.
Thanks for the reminder. I think I’ll ask “Grammie” if she can watch the kids today!
Heather
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 00:42
Hi Heather,
thanks for your comment. That’s true, they tell you to put them on first and only then help others, even kids are in the second place. I can relate to the struggles of moms nowadays with a whole bunch of expectations from everywhere. It has become even more important to know one’s purpose and to mind one’s business. Very important is also the ability to say “no” to everything else.
Take care
Oliver
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Very true Oliver! It is sometimes very difficult to always place you & your needs first above others – specially those you love deeply. It is also the human male’s inherent function to protect, almost inbred, if you wish. As a result, many men find it difficult to satisfy their needs ahead of those of their wives & children.
I guess it comes down to the application of self-discipline!
Stay inspired!
Michael
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Oliver Reply:
August 4th, 2010 at 20:54
Hi Michael,
interesting aspect. I would have thought that I myself mind my business, pehaps not – so thank you for your thought-provoking comment.
Take care
Oliver
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Hey Oliver,
This reminds me of a book I’ve read. If you don’t mind your business nobody else will. So you are the most important person. You build you and the rest gets built.
Chat with you later…
Josh
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Oliver Reply:
August 4th, 2010 at 20:52
Hi Josh,
thanks for your comment – which book is it ? I agree, I am the most important person
and so are you.
Come back soon and take care
OLiver
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Twitter: steveshoemaker
says:
Oliver
You think this would be easy with a the self preservation instinct in all of us.
But it’s not quite the contrary we can get absorbed in others affairs and forget to mind our own while they unravel.
Then not until its critical does the little instinct kick in. Something we need to work on.
Steve Shoemaker
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 00:38
HI Steve,
thanks for your comment. In tomorrow’s food, I’m giving some more “brain food” to think about
Stay tuned and take care
Oliver
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Hey Oliver!
Great post, and really important content here. I believe when you do what you love and love what you do, there is no difference in how you live. Business is life and life is business!
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 00:37
Hi Ryan,
thanks for your initial comment on my blog. That is a great point of view – and everything’s a game. If we win, great. If we lose, so what. Let’s play the next round. Of course, it’s important to stay in the game.
Come back soon and take care
Oliver
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Hey Oliver,
You make a very good point. If I don’t look out for myself, who will. I’m the only person that I can depend on. I’m not saying I don’t enjoy helping others, but sometimes people tend to “wear out their welcome” if you know what I mean.
Be BLESSED!!!
Reggie
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 00:35
Hi Reggie,
thanks for your initial comment on my blog. I’m glad you were able to relate to my post.
Come back soon and take care
OLiver
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Hey Oliver,
Having everything in place is ideal if you want to build a strong business. Otherwise, you’re on unstable ground that is bound to have everything crumble up on it.
What is so refreshing is that WE are in complete control of that. We control our destiny, so taking care of this first is what committed leaders do.
Have an awesome day,
Jerome Ratliff
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 00:34
Hi Jerome,
thanks for your comment. We are in control, that is so true – and refreshing indeed.
Take care
Oliver
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Twitter: MavisNong
says:
Hi Oliver,
Great post as usual. If you don’t take care of yourself, who will?
Thanks for sharing your insights.
Look forward to tomorrow’s post!
All the best,
Mavis Nong
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 20:30
Hi Mavis,
thanks for your comment – and you’re welcome.
Take care
Oliver
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“This above all: To thine own self be true.”
I find that everything else falls into place after that…
Cheers,
Karen
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 20:30
Hi Karen,
this one sentence could replace the complete post, thanks for sharing and your comment.
Take care
Oliver
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Yes, I agree we should “mind our own business”. If we allow others to BE what they want to be and continue “BEING” what we want to be, then we should all end up doing what we want:-) It’s not always as easy as it sounds though:-)
I look at how one of my daughters stays awake a lot of nights because her baby daughter doesn’t want to sleep. It’s a real challenge to “mind your own business” in situations like that. I know when my children were babies, I couldn’t stay awake like she does!
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 20:29
Hi Julieanne,
thanks for your comment and sharing your experiences. It’s often the case that things sound simple – and are simple – but are not easy to implement or follow through. Building an MLM Networking business is one example. On the other hand, we all should give a chance to the ideal, shouldn’t we ?
Take care
Oliver
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Twitter: AnaTrafficCafe
says:
I am not sure I subscribe to the notion that I am the most important person in my life. That sounds like a very sad life!
You always make me think, Oliver.
Ana Hoffman
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 20:24
Hi Ana,
thanks for your comment. Making my appreciated readers and commentators think – that is my ultimate goal. So I am grateful for your feedback
The key is: Allowing it to others as well to be the most important persons in their lives. It starts becoming sad – or even tragic – if we allow to others to be the most important persons in their lives and don’t allow it to us. And vice versa of course, if we think we are the centre of the universe instead of our universe, we have a problem as well.
Hope that helps to remove or at least reduce the sadness
Take care
Oliver
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Hi Oliver,
I definitely think you should take care of yourself first,and don’t think it’s selfish I think it’s giving.
If I don’t take care of myself physically, emotionally, and spiritually then how can I take care of the ones I love.
I like the saying about keeping your own garden weed free, then worry about someone elses.
Take care
Neil
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 20:18
Hi Neil,
that is an awesome saying – I can totally resonate with it.
Thanks for sharing it and commenting.
Come back soon and take care
Oliver
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Twitter: prfuller
says:
Hey Oliver
The first time this concept sank in for me was when I was travelling on a plane and read the warning regarding the oxygen mask. Many people’s inclination is to help others first not realizing that they could help more people by putting on their mask first.
Thanks Oliver, another great read.
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 20:17
Hi Peter,
the example with the oxygen masks is really awesome and doesn’t allow any contradiction
Thanks for sharing and your comment.
Take care
Oliver
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I really enjoyed this post. I give as much of my time and energy to others that there comes a time when it means I need to mind myself. This may mean time to work on the business or just take a nap and rejuvenate. I think most people forget that part until they collapse or are resentful. A great reminder that sometimes being “selfish” in a giving world is ok.
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 20:12
Hi VaNessa,
thanks for your initial comment on my blog. I’m glad you were able to relate to it. It is absolutely OK to be a little bit “selfish” because it isn’t selfish at all if we allow others to do the same. If I thought I am the most important person in my life and refuse the same to others, I have a severe problem.
Come back soon and take care
Oliver
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Hi Oliver had to re read this post to get the sense of your message- which is good for the brain cells!
There is a lovely irony to this reply – which is that my response is clearly contrary to your Blog title!
I agree there does seem to be some contradiction in minding your own business and engaging with others in a business sense – but there is a context issue here.
True selflessness or altruism probably doesn’t really exist – if helping others is what makes us feel worthy, fulfilled, and gives meaning to our lives – whilst admirable it still has an element of self gratification -which is the basis of all human motivation.
I guess its the imposition of our own egotistical judgment on others that is objectionable
Thanks for engaging my brain- and I’ll continue to mind my own business!
Cheers Kiaran
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 20:05
Hi Kiaran,
I hope the necessity of re-reading is not a language issue
You’re hitting the nail on its head: There is zero contradiction. The question is: What is the natural orders of things and where starts selfishness ? And yes, if we label others as being selfish – if they are it or not: it’s not our business – we start preventing ourselves from minding our own businesses. The other thing is, what does hold us back from minding our own business ? As often, I personally believe it’s fear, fear of being critized as being selfish.
I think it was worth re-reading the post, wasn’t it ?
Thanks for commenting and take care
Oliver
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Well gosh, Peter was able to comment the way I was intending to before I could. Just like he says , on a airplane it says in case of cabin pressure loss, put on your mask first before your childrens. We all have to take care of oursleves first and this makes life easier on all of those around us. There may be times that taking care of yourself actually helps others from worrying and getting ill themselves. This is really no different than learning, as we learn first we then have the ability to pass on the knowledge, to help others.
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Twitter: TristramLodge
says:
Hi Oliver,
Interesting topic and I think I recall reading something about this a couple of years ago. Very true about people minding everyone elses business and not their own. I think this happens in all walks of life. Maybe it’s human nature to mind everyone else. Look forward to the next post.
Tristram Lodge
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Oliver Reply:
August 5th, 2010 at 22:33
Hi Tristram,
thanks for your comment and pointing it out Facebook
The stuff I wrote about is usually not new, it’s pretty old, in most cases more than 2,000 years old. So I’m sure you already read about it.
Well, actually, I don’t think it’s human nature. The natural order of things is minding one’s own business.
Take care
Oliver
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Hi Oliver
A great post especially in these times of such catastrophic events happening around the world.
Another teacher I have worked with who has very similar views to Robert used to say “what is happening in Afghanistan is none of your business”. It was just an example.
I was only saying to my husband I wonder what that person (Dr Fred Grosse) would say about recent events. It can be a fine line I think to be compassionate without losing ourselves in something we cannot do anything about.
Well said.
Sue
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Oliver Reply:
March 15th, 2011 at 10:30
Hi Sue,
thanks for sharing this. There’s always something bad happening somewhere in the world. We can’t live our lives if we buy in everything…
To realize that we can’t do much these things can be very freeing.
Take care
Oliver
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